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It’s safe to say that my college experience would have been completely different if I hadn’t joined my sorority. I still don’t know if it was overall good or overall bad. It kind of feels like a wash. I don’t know if I think that my sorority enriched my life so much that it was worth everything I put into it. It started off great. I got my bid. Got my big. I loved the chapter I joined. But after four years of growing and changing, the chapter I left was not the one that I accepted a bid from in Fall 2012. The chapter that I graduated from was corrupt. The sisterhood was a façade. Our sisters were bullying each other while other groups on campus bullied us too.
Freshman year was amazing. I joined an amazing group of girls who I admired and looked up to more than I even knew was possible. My big was the coolest person I’ve ever met in my whole life. She and I didn’t really have much in common, but maybe that’s why we got along so well. What we did have in common is that we were both from out of state. So she totally knew the struggle I was facing when I didn’t get to go home to my family. My grandbig was a senior when I entered the chapter. She was on EC. She was the leader that I aspired to be some day. I loved almost every girl in my pledge class. We were small so we were tight. We stuck together through everything. Second semester of my freshman year, my big took another little which stung a little bit, but could having a twin really be that bad?
Sophomore year was full of my sorority. I lived with 3 other girls in my pledge class which was great. I held many positions including VP. I organized meetings and helped officers plan their events. I really enjoyed being on EC. I loved the responsibility, but the president at the time was constantly undermining me at every turn. She was a complete control freak and refused to let me do any of my work without her looking over my shoulder, but I understood. If I was president of this chapter, I might do the same, and I really hoped I would find out some day. I took a little my sophomore year. It was kind of an interesting scenario because my little was actually older than me, she just decided to rush as a sophomore instead of a freshman. She and I got along great! We had many classes together and we could enjoy each other in and out of sorority life.
Junior year is when everything hit the fan. First of all, I decided to take two littles, which I thought meant that I was doing something nice. This way two girls get their first choice of a big, right? Wrong. It just created a tension and a competition between those two girls for who could paint me the bigger canvas or who could write the longer Instagram caption for my birthday. I lived in an on-campus apartment with two of my pledge sisters and one other sister. When the third sister literally went crazy and threatened to hurt one of us, she moved out and one of my littles moved in. One of the littles in competition for my love. This didn’t bode well for ANYONE. I ran for president of the sorority that year and lost… to my big’s other little. To the girl who joined late, stole my big, and then stole the presidency from me. I accepted a different position and became the New Member Educator. Losing the presidency sent me into a huge downward spiral. I didn’t want to deal with any of it anymore. I didn’t want to live with my pledge sisters anymore. I was tired of putting up with their mess and their noise.
Eventually, though, I got over it. Senior year, I became the New Member Educator that I remember having as a Freshman. The one who is so peppy and responsible and inspiring and I initiated all but two girls who received bids. I took ANOTHER little senior year because the chapter that was once so full of life had become apathetic. Nobody wanted to be a big sister. Nobody wanted to put the effort in to have a position. Everyone just wanted to wear the letters around campus and not have to do any work. At a big school that is probably possible, but in a school as small as mine and a chapter as small as ours, everyone has to do a little bit of work to keep the chapter afloat. I lived senior year with the same girls as junior year – two pledge sisters, and one of my littles. Everything was fine until we all received our littles who were also the new members I was educating. These girls were brats. These girls were bullies. These girls had never made it out of middle school. They were all about spreading rumors and making petty comments behind everyone’s backs. One of my roommate/pledge sisters littles tweeted something so mean about me when she was upset one day that I almost dropped my sorority after eight semesters. After four years of the work I put in. After the amount of money I poured in. After all the presents I gave to my littles and roommates – to have someone PUBLICLY bully me ON SOCIAL MEDIA was the last straw. I reported the tweet she sent to our (adult) advisers who assured me that they took care of it. I know nothing of her punishment, nothing of what compelled her to attack me, and nothing of how to force myself to get over it. This all happened in May and it still keeps me up at night.
So as you can see, my sorority experience was less than ideal. I used to tell people that a sorority could be whatever you made it. If you wanted it to be rewarding, it could be but you would have to work hard. If you wanted it to be a cakewalk, it could be but you really wouldn’t get anything out of it. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. I worked very hard for my sorority and for my sisters and still got burnt in the end.
If you plan on joining a sorority, that’s great. You probably won’t have the same experience I did. But if you are on the fence and you aren’t sure that you really want to put so much time and money on the line to get scorched in the end, do some thinking and some soul searching. Plenty of girls make it through school without joining a sorority and they turn out just fine. Always remember – professional fraternities are always an option.
Alright you guys before you get out your torches and your pitchforks just hear me out:
The way I see it, there are two types of people in this world: Dunks people and Starbs people. Some will argue that there are also people who don’t drink coffee, but honestly that concept is just so foreign to me that I have a hard time recognizing them as people.
Massachusetts – ever heard of it? Home of the Boston Tea Party, Midnight Ride, Boston Massacre, and most importantly John Krasinski. Much like the Red Sox, Patriots, Celtics, and Bruins, Dunkin Donuts is another powerhouse that reigns from good old MA.
No one in their right mind can argue that Starbucks is a better value than Dunks. At Dunks, a medium iced is a medium ices is a medium iced and no matter what you add to it (with the exception of a Turbo Shot) you will be charged as such. At Starbucks, I think they charge you for how many syllables you utter. “I’d like a Venti Iced Peppermint Mocha” is a lot of syllables and it is definitely reflected in your total. Even if you order a black coffee at Starbucks and add your own cream (like a peasant) it is more expensive than a coffee of the same size prepared the way you actually want to drink it from Dunks.
Not only does a Dunkin Donuts “small” cost less than a Starbucks “tall” but Dunks also gives you more coffee in your cup.
Not only is the cost higher and the volume lower at Starbucks, the coffee is also burnt. I’ve taken to calling the establishment Charbucks because it tastes like a burnt tire that drove through a field of coffee grounds.
The DD Perks app is constantly putting on new deals. Get this for $1 after 2PM. Buy one of these, get one of these half priced. The Starbucks Rewards Program is just that – a rewards program. Starbucks will reward you for going there, but not give you any incentive to go there with any sort of special promotions or deals.
Depending on where you are in the country, the DD Perks app also does specials for your local professional sports teams. I love it because, let’s be honest, getting a free coffee after the Patriots win means getting a free coffee almost every week from November to February.
Dunkin Donuts bakers get there early in the morning and bake all of the muffins and bagels. Depending on the store, they might bake their own donuts or they might be delivered from their local donut factory to then be filled, frosted, and decorated by the morning baker. Starbucks (food) is all frozen, pre-packaged garbage that they just heat up in a device that’s like a microwave.
Not only is Dunkins’ food actual real, cooked food, its also much carbier and just overall tastier. When I have a coffee I want a muffin, bagel, or donut. I don’t want some weird Spinach and egg wrap thing. I have acid reflux and I feel like that would just give me indegestion. Coffee is acidic, therefore you need something really carby to protect your stomach lining. Trust me.
Not only is Dunkin Donuts’ hot chocolate exceptionally amazing, they also have FLAVORED hot chocolates and they will put FLAVOR SHOTS in you hot chocolate for you too. Mint Hot chocolate is my favorite, but it’s a seasonal drink, so I will settle for a Hot Chocolate with a Coconut flavor shot for the rest of the year. The Dunkaccino is also a grand beverage invention. It’s a combination of hot chocolate and coffee which is great for if you don’t actually like coffee that much but need caffeine.
I, personally, find Dunkin Donuts employees to be friendlier. Probably because all Starbucks employees are either hipsters or pretentious, but my coffee is always ready a lot faster at Dunks. Dunks seems to have it figured out better where they have people at the registers (managers, usually), people making drinks, and people making food (bakers, usually). This way everyone has their own job and no one is in each others’ way. At Starbucks, the person who takes your order has to go walk around and make your coffee, and then they have to go put your weird spinach wrap in the “microwave” too. Same with the person on the other register, and same for the person working the drive thru. So everyone is constantly in each others’ way, bumping each other, and while they’re holding hot coffee and that just makes me anxious.
I hope this post has enlightened you to the superiority of Dunkin Donuts over Starbucks. If you disagree, I would love to hear your opinion!!
I recently visited the dentist, and these are the real conversations that took place. No teeth were harmed in the writing of this post.
Question: How are you today?
Verbal Answer: Good, thanks. How are you?
Honest Answer: Great, but I have a feeling that won’t last long once you put your hands in my mouth
Question: Brushing and flossing twice a day, right?
Verbal Answer: Yep, morning and night
Honest Answer: HAHAHAHAHA
Question: Your teeth seem a little discolored. Do you drink much coffee?
Verbal Answer: No, I’ve been cutting back. Down to one cup per week
Honest Answer: I mean, not really, it’s noon and I’ve only had three today, so…
Question: Has anyone ever told you that you have a really small mouth?
Verbal Answer: *laughs uncomfortably* Yeah it takes me forever to eat
Honest Answer: Uh yeah I know. I told you that you would need the childrens’ xray attachment. But did you listen? No. You never do. We’ve had this conversation like six times now.
Question: No chance you may be pregnant right?
Verbal Answer: Definitely not
Honest Answer: I guess we’ll find out in six days (according to my period tracking app)
Question: Oh look your teeth have shifted a little bit, do you want me to get you a quote for invisiligns?
Verbal Answer: Oh no thanks, I’ll look into it later.
Honest Answer: No! We go through this every time! My insurance doesn’t cover it and I can barely afford to eat Ramen right now okay?
Question: See, that wasn’t so bad was it?
Verbal Answer: Nah, I don’t know what I was so worried about
Honest Answer: Um yes it was, you gagged me with the metal mirror thing like eight times and now my gums are bleeding and my teeth are gonna hurt for the rest of the day
Question: No eating or drinking anything for 30 minutes, okay?
Verbal Answer: Alrighty!
Honest Answer: Please, after that torture, I need a medium iced from Dunks, stat!
Question: Do you want a goodie bag?
Verbal Answer: Yes please!
Honest Answer: Sure! Why not? Since you just violated the inner sanctity of my mouth. At least you can make it all better with some floss I’m never going to use and a one dollar toothbrush.
Question: See you in six months, okay?
Verbal Answer: Yeah! Take care!
Honest Answer: Not if I can help it!!
As I have mentioned, I am from Massachusetts but went to school in Tennessee. My college experience was excellent and terrible – sometimes at the same time. Here are ten things I realized way too late about going to school out of state.
Plane tickets are expensive. Gas is expensive. Traveling is expensive. If you will be responsible for paying for your own traveling, this is something major to consider. My dad and I decided that he would fly me home for Christmas and Summer. All of my other flights were my responsibility. I missed every Thanksgiving and I missed three out of four Easters. It’s hard to shell out $500 when your monthly income is $0.
Luckily, I had an uncle nearby when I was away at school. He let me stay at his house whenever I wanted and I spent every holiday there which was nice – but it was not the same as being at home with my family. All your friends will leave for the holidays and you will be stuck at school with nowhere to go. Your friends will offer that you can come spend the holiday with their family but it won’t be the same either.
All four years I was away, my family had already gotten the Christmas tree by the time I had gotten home from school. That had been a family tradition for all of us to go together, but I missed it four times. Christmas isn’t the only thing: I missed September trips to the Cape. I missed family weddings. I missed cookouts and picnics and quality time with my family that I will never get back.
Just because everyone is healthy when you leave as a freshman, does not mean everyone will still be healthy when you get back after senior year. I will never forget the day sophomore year that my mom called me to tell me that my grandfather had a stroke. That phone call wrecked me. There is no worse feeling than being trapped somewhere when all you want to do is get home. My dad also underwent a pretty serious operation during my senior year that I couldn’t be around for and that was an even worse feeling. Not only will your human family members age, but your pets will too. Think about the average lifespan of the breed of dog or cat you have before you make that decision.
This was a serious problem for me, right here. The amount of Saturday morning Snapchats I received from my sister snuggling with my cat was almost enough to make me drop out and move home. Karma used to sleep with me every night, and she continued to sleep in my room for a while after I left, but it was a cold winter and she needed my sister’s body heat. Also, your pets may be afraid of you for a while once you get back, especially if they don’t recognize your smell.
Luckily for me, I didn’t get majorly sick until the second semester of my senior year. I had somehow gotten strep (which my biology major roommate diagnosed me with) and needed to get antibiotics. But where do you go to the doctor when you’re out of state? I ended up going to the Little Clinic in Kroger and they took great care of me. But I really did miss having my mom there to make me tea.
On the other side of this, you may be able to get through it if you have a mom-like friend. My junior year all three of my roommates came down with the flu all at the same time. Don’t ask me how I avoided catching it because I really have no idea. But I took great care of those girls. I went out and got everyone the cough drops they like, Vics Vapor Rub, tissues, soup, tea, anything else they wanted. The thing is, though, if I had caught that flu too, we all would have been out of luck and that week would have been a lot worse.
Many people use the a Minor Med type facility when they have a non-urgent medical need, which is great, but the problem from being an out of state student is that those Minor Meds are associated with local hospitals and therefore take local insurance. Your insurance may work just fine, but I have heard many horror stories of people receiving treatment and then owing an enormous bill they weren’t expecting.
When I started school, I was using Bank of America and everything was fine – those banks are everywhere, but my sophomore year my dad decided to switch us to a smaller, local credit union with lower fees, but that credit union didn’t have any branches near my school. I would either take out a lot of cash to travel to Tennessee with me (which is risky) or use the ATM at school and pay a fee to take out my own money (which is ridiculous). Although this is by no means life threatening, it is annoying, and definitely something to keep in mind.
The uncle that I previously mentioned had decided to get a new car just as I was starting school so he sold me his old truck which I used whenever I was down there. It was a good thing too. The cafeteria at my school closed at 7PM every night. That is so early!! You are going to need a snack past 7PM sometime in the four years you are at college, I promise. Also if you stay on campus during Spring Break or Fall Break, it is likely that the cafeteria will not be serving food at all and you may need to find your own.
I tried for a long time to do the long distance relationship while I was in college. I’m not saying that long distance relationships won’t work. They definitely can if you’re with the right person. The right person for me wasn’t the guy I was in a relationship with. My right guy was the one I met senior year after doing long distance for three years. Even if you don’t think you will meet a boy at your school, you will. Even if you think college isn’t the right place to date because you need to focus on your schoolwork, you will. I never thought I would meet someone down south but I did and it was a huge problem in my life when I had to end my long distance relationship. That’s a hard thing to do.
Four years is a long time and although transferring is an always option, it is and expensive and lengthy process which might cause you to lose some of your credits. I was determined to finish what I had started and graduate from the school I had started at, but that doesn’t mean I didn’t struggle. Looking back now I don’t know if I’m glad I chose that school or not there were definitely a lot of ups and most certainly a lot of downs. I’m not trying to talk you out of anything. I just really want to make sure you know what you’re getting into by going to school out of state. Don’t make this decision without weighing each of these and thinking about how they will affect you and your family. You are not the only one that will miss your family. They will miss you too.
I knew exactly what I wanted to do with my life right when I entered high school. I knew I wanted to be a Biology major and I knew I wanted to be a Biologist after that. I wanted to wear the lab coat and work in a lab doing all sorts of cool experiments. I had it all worked out, at 15, yaknow, until I realized I was wrong.
My sophomore year of high school I took Biology and loved the Cellular material but anything remotely having to do with anatomy would give me the heebie jeebies. Junior year, I took Zoology and that was a literal disaster. I nearly fainted during every dissection we did. It was clear that I wouldn’t make it through four years of collegiate biology material.
So with my life shattered, not knowing what to do with myself, I began thinking about what other majors in which I was interested. I had always loved math and science. I took Physics as a senior in high school and it was arguably my favorite class. So then, I knew I wanted to be a Physics major. Unfortunately, when you tell people you want to study Physics, they ask you difficult questions like, “What kind of job are you trying to get with a degree like that?” – a question to which I did not have an answer.
So I started thinking about possible majors AGAIN and decided on engineering. As you probably know, there are many different types of engineering degrees and that there is a pecking order in which they are ranked. Because my mom had graduated with a Civil Engineering degree and I had to be just at liiitttlle bit better than her, I chose Mechanical Engineering.
Just because I decided on my major before I stepped foot on my college’s campus for my first day doesn’t mean that I didn’t regret my choice or want to change while I was there. Getting that degree was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but I’ll save that for another post.
Many of you have probably heard by now about the Couch to 5K workout program which has been helping beginners get off the couch, start walking, then running and finally completing a 5K run. I think this whole program is an excellent idea and I was finding many Couch to 5K running plans on Pinterest, but all of them differed a little bit.
For over a year now I have been using the C25K app from the Apple Store and I love it. This app consists of an 8-week program where you are to exercise 3 days per week. Week 1, Day 1 begins with a five-minute warm up walk, then you are to alternating running 60 seconds and walking 90 seconds for 20 minutes. Your workout ends with a 5 minute cool down walk – totaling a 30 minute workout. Each week your ratio of running to walking increases, until finally you are running the entire duration of your workout.
I love this app so much because the routine is very easy to follow and if you neglect to open it for a couple days it tells you that it misses you and that you should keep on going!! This app is great because you are still able to listen to your bomb running playlist and it turns it down when the automated lady-robot voice says “begin running now” or (my personal favorite) “one minute left.” Upon opening the app, you are met with an inspirational quote which is such a nice thing to read before doing something as physically and emotionally grueling as running.
You are able to repeat workouts if you feel that you struggle too much during one particular run. I personally repeated Week 5 Day 2 many times before I felt I was ready to move on to Week 5 Day 3 and the app assured me that there was absolutely nothing wrong with that.
The way I see it, man created technology for a reason. If someone took the time and energy to map out all these workouts in a way that is healthy for the human body, we’d ought to utilize it. I love this app and would recommend it to anyone, any day of the week.
This playlist, on shuffle combined with my C25K app makes for the perfect run after work!!
Raise your Glass – P!nk
Moves like Jagger – Maroon 5
Party Rock Anthem – LMFAO
Stronger – Kelly Clarkson
Dynamite – Taio Cruz
Yeah 3x – Chris Brown
Starships – Nicki Minaj
Strip – Chris Brown
In my Head – Jason Derulo
Break your Heart – Taio Cruz
You and I – Lady Gaga
Tonight Tonight – Hot Chelle Rae
50 Ways to Say Goodbye – Train
Drive By – Train
She Doesn’t Mind – Pitbull
Call Me Maybe – Carly Rae Jepson
Makes Me Happy – Drake Bell
Take Care – Drake
It Girl – Jason Derulo
Try out the songs and let us know what you think!!
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Happy Labor Day, everyone!!
Our family started our morning with a treat – my famous Banana Chocolate Chip Waffles.
If you’re interested in making beautiful and delicious waffles like these follow the steps below:
First things first – do you guys have this waffle iron? My dad and I found it a few years ago. Its a 5-in-1 Panini Maker that has a waffle iron attachment. The great thing about it is that the attachments come off so you can run them through the dishwasher!! It’s absolutely amazing!!
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First thing’s first, gather all your ingredients.
Preheat your waffle iron. The green light will come one when it’s ready.
Use a potato masher and a tall rimmed plate to mash your banana.
Put your ingredients in a mixing bowl and stir to combine. Pour them over the waffle iron and then add the chocolate chips on top. Close the lid and cook the waffle for 4-6 minutes. Plate your creation, top it and enjoy!
Did you try it? Let us know how it worked for you!!
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How much money do you spend on coffee every month? If you track that number, the answer might surprise you, but fear not. There are ways to save money and you’re about the learn the best one.
The year was 2016. The month, a beautiful sunshiny May in central Massachusetts. Your girl, here, had just graduated from college (finally) and started her dream job as a Mechanical Engineer at a Biomedical company in her hometown. She was living at home with her parents who she missed so much while she was away at school, commuting 1.3 miles to work, and eating completely for free at home. It was the life.
But then, something started happening. The excitement of her new job was starting to wear off and she started getting the 10AM blues. You know the one. The one where you need a certain something. You need that afternoon pick-me-up. YOU NEED COFFEE.
Luckily for her, there was both a Starbucks and a Dunkin Donuts within walking distance of her wonderful working establishment. So she grabbed a friend and they walked to get their caffeine fix. As a born and bred Masshole, there was no way she would pass up Dunks for Starbs, that would just be wrong. So she opted for the better (and cheaper) choice and headed out.
Knowing that she has had stomach problems in the past and that stress ulcers were a definite possibility for someone as Type-A as she, she decided to order a Reduced Fat Blueberry Muffin with her coffee. Her total came out to $4.02, she paid the nice man in the ugly brown apron, and headed back to work. She sat in her cubicle enjoying her treats and continued working.
As the summer drew on, her trips to to Dunks became more frequent. What started as a once a week treat turned into an every day necessity. Some days, she would just get the coffee, some days a muffin as well, and some days a bagel instead.
As the responsible girl she was, she tracked her spending meticulously. She had just finished her Engineering Economy class and knew exactly how much she needed to be saving to afford the house she wanted to buy, or the car that she knew she would need eventually, or just to increase her “in case of emergency” savings account. But there she was spending $30 per week at Dunkin Donuts. For coffee – something she could easily make at home.
She knew she had a problem. She knew she needed to make a change. So that’s what she did. She made one of the most important purchases of her life and invested in a Coffee Press.
This coffee press was amazing. She could make Hot or Iced Coffee. Warm or Cold Brew. Her days of spending an excessive amount of Dunkin Donuts were over, and she can finally rest easily enjoying her Iced Coffee from home.